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I will say that now as she approaches 30 I think she wishes I’d made a different decision. But I have a very wise Mama. Upon being asked should I have another child for my daughter, she answered, “There’s no guarantee they’ll even LIKE each other.” Good enough.

I am now a grandparent, to a wonderful grandson, 8 yrs old. If my daughter turns out to be a “dud” I can always pass everything on to him, thus fixing the family legacy dilemma (not that there will be all that much!) And interestingly, my daughter has her son and doesn’t want anymore children, so being an “only” couldn’t have been that bad in her view.

I am delighted that you’re thinking deeply about this. And yes, as others said, your family is what you make it. Sun will be just fine with a parent like you.

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We had both of our kids when we were young (and stupid). I was 21 when I had our daughter and 25 when we had our son. That was it, then. My kidneys didn’t like being pregnant the second time, and it was a near guarantee that they would hate it the next time even more. So I eventually got my tubes tied. I had wanted more, but I’m glad things turned out this way.

Our daughter, while I wouldn’t exactly call her a dud, is a troubled girl. She developed mental illness at 14 and was in and out of hospitals for the next 10 years. Now she is off living somewhere in W.Va. and has so many problems – substance abuse among them. The way she has treated us, her loving family, is criminal, so we can’t have her here. I have often said that if God hadn’t given me my son, I would have forever thought i was a horrible, useless mother for having raised a girl with so many problems. My son has shown me that we are good parents. But God knew what he was doing, not giving me more. My health would have precluded me from being the kind of active mother I wanted to be, had I had more.

I’m sure God knows what he’s doing in your case, too. Sun is a lucky girl to have such caring and thoughtful parents.

Peace – D

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I’ve never been a very logical thinker and I thank God she’s not either.

Like XBox said–finding peace with your decision is the most important.

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Let me wave at you from my side of the playground and let you know what lies ahead:

As an only child at age six and a half, Owl gets everything. Not as in we buy him anything he wants, but he gets all of me, all of his daddy. There is work, and then family time, and all of the family time goes to him. So he gets LOTS of attention. I can easily be patient with him. When my nephews are over, I am glad I am not my sister, because more than one would be TOO MUCH for me. If you’re like me in that way (and I suspect you are), you will enjoy being a mom to one a whole lot.

There is enough for me time. (Well, there’s never enough, but there’s some.)

I have no regrets, or feelings of incompleteness. I love seeing cute little babies, remembering when Owl was that small, and then giving them back to their parents and watching Owl play with them. But I also enjoy going home with just the one.

I hope being decided about this gives you a sense of peace about it.

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Y’all are doing what’s best for your family. And you and CS could NEVER raise a dud!

Finding your peace with a decision is the most important thing here.

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