Comments on: The Gift of Perspective http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/ The Carousel Ride of My Life. Fri, 29 Aug 2008 07:30:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Sandy (Momisodes) http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2390 Sandy (Momisodes) Fri, 02 May 2008 06:31:47 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2390 I never thought of you as an older mom either! She will keep you young indeed. I've worked with both young and old moms, and age really is a state of mind :) <em>Sandy (Momisodes)'s last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Momisodes/~3/281904442/' rel="nofollow">Hai’suck</a></em> I never thought of you as an older mom either! She will keep you young indeed. I’ve worked with both young and old moms, and age really is a state of mind :)
Sandy (Momisodes)’s last blog post..Hai’suck

]]> By: Charlotte http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2389 Charlotte Fri, 02 May 2008 03:09:21 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2389 Well, you know my story. Cliche though it is, I believe everything happens (or doesn't) for a reason. I don't have kids but I certainly know alot of people who do! IMHO, just from observation, I think older parents make better parents (generally speaking). They have experience on their side and are more patient, mature and settled. And mothers like you who had such a hard time conceiving really know the value of the young lives entrusted to them. And, hey, 37 is far from old....you still have the fabulous forties to look forward to! I loved my forties! <em>Charlotte's last blog post..<a href='http://charleyana.wordpress.com/2008/04/30/shoes-tra-la-la/' rel="nofollow">Shoes Tra-la-la!</a></em> Well, you know my story. Cliche though it is, I believe everything happens (or doesn’t) for a reason. I don’t have kids but I certainly know alot of people who do! IMHO, just from observation, I think older parents make better parents (generally speaking). They have experience on their side and are more patient, mature and settled. And mothers like you who had such a hard time conceiving really know the value of the young lives entrusted to them.
And, hey, 37 is far from old….you still have the fabulous forties to look forward to! I loved my forties!

Charlotte’s last blog post..Shoes Tra-la-la!

]]> By: corey http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2388 corey Thu, 01 May 2008 04:02:22 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2388 one of the best posts I have read in a long long time. my only regret about having Sugar as late as I did (30) is that my parents, her grandparents will most likely be gone before she marries. That will be sad for me, as I had all my grandparents still alived when I married. <em>corey's last blog post..<a href='http://livingandlovingeveryminuteofit.blogspot.com/2008/05/three-corners-april.html' rel="nofollow">Three Corners~ April</a></em> one of the best posts I have read in a long long time.
my only regret about having Sugar as late as I did (30) is that my parents, her grandparents will most likely be gone before she marries. That will be sad for me, as I had all my grandparents still alived when I married.

corey’s last blog post..Three Corners~ April

]]> By: Tara R. http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2387 Tara R. Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:31:19 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2387 Age is just mind over matter... if you don't mind, it doesn't matter. How old would you be, if you didn't know how old you were? Just have fun with Sun, your age won't make any difference to her. <em>Tara R.'s last blog post..<a href='http://ifmomsaysok.wordpress.com/2008/04/30/random-wednesday-25/' rel="nofollow">Random Wednesday</a></em> Age is just mind over matter… if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. How old would you be, if you didn’t know how old you were? Just have fun with Sun, your age won’t make any difference to her.

Tara R.’s last blog post..Random Wednesday

]]> By: Lanny http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2386 Lanny Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:08:27 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2386 I was just thinking about age! It occurred to me that if we have anymore children, which we are hoping will happen, I'll be old enough to be the mother of some of the moms dropping their kids off at kindergarten. Ouch! My grandmother was older, especially for her generation, when she had her children. Somebody recently asked me how old Memere was when she died. Without even thinking about it, I said, "She was young. She was only 88." They laughed that I thought 88 was young, but I really think having children at an older age, and having grandchildren (she was VERY active with us) at an older age kept her young. Does that make sense? I'm hoping since I'm an older mom with Linus, that I'll remain young too. Even if I did discover crow's feet around my eyes the other night. Man, that sucked! <em>Lanny's last blog post..<a href='http://mylagniappe.blogspot.com/2008/04/extra-drink-or-two.html' rel="nofollow">An Extra Drink or Two</a></em> I was just thinking about age! It occurred to me that if we have anymore children, which we are hoping will happen, I’ll be old enough to be the mother of some of the moms dropping their kids off at kindergarten. Ouch!

My grandmother was older, especially for her generation, when she had her children. Somebody recently asked me how old Memere was when she died. Without even thinking about it, I said, “She was young. She was only 88.” They laughed that I thought 88 was young, but I really think having children at an older age, and having grandchildren (she was VERY active with us) at an older age kept her young. Does that make sense?

I’m hoping since I’m an older mom with Linus, that I’ll remain young too. Even if I did discover crow’s feet around my eyes the other night. Man, that sucked!

Lanny’s last blog post..An Extra Drink or Two

]]> By: jameil1922 http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2385 jameil1922 Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:06:15 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2385 fab!!! and my mom and i are great friends b/c we're both amazing women, not b/c of her age. i would love her no matter her age. you guys will be fab!! <em>jameil1922's last blog post..<a href='http://jameil.blogspot.com/2008/04/drawer-full-of-joy.html' rel="nofollow">Drawer Full of Joy</a></em> fab!!! and my mom and i are great friends b/c we’re both amazing women, not b/c of her age. i would love her no matter her age. you guys will be fab!!

jameil1922’s last blog post..Drawer Full of Joy

]]> By: Maria http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2384 Maria Wed, 30 Apr 2008 18:04:06 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2384 Age is just a number. I wanted to be a young mom - but sometimes, I wish I hadn't done is *so* young. <em>Maria's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/immoralmc/~3/277757944/white-is-alright.html' rel="nofollow">White is Alright?</a></em> Age is just a number. I wanted to be a young mom - but sometimes, I wish I hadn’t done is *so* young.

Maria’s last blog post..White is Alright?

]]> By: Huckdoll http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2383 Huckdoll Wed, 30 Apr 2008 16:42:24 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2383 Oh my gosh, I've never thought of you as old at all! From the way we can talk and laugh on the buzz (and same goes with so many people I've met around the blogosphere), it goes to show you age IS really just a number. <em>Huckdoll's last blog post..<a href='http://huckdoll.blogspot.com/2008/04/kiss-is-just-kiss.html' rel="nofollow">K-I-S-S-I-N-G</a></em> Oh my gosh, I’ve never thought of you as old at all! From the way we can talk and laugh on the buzz (and same goes with so many people I’ve met around the blogosphere), it goes to show you age IS really just a number.

Huckdoll’s last blog post..K-I-S-S-I-N-G

]]> By: liprap http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2382 liprap Wed, 30 Apr 2008 15:40:18 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2382 Lilalia has great advice. There's a 30-year difference between me and the little guy, but I honestly never thought about being an "old mama". It is just a number, and has nothing much to do with how you connect with your child. It has to do with how well you consider your child and her needs, and how responsive you are to that - and it is also why it is a lifetime job, because that relationship can and will change over time. Roll with those changes and just be who you are. Those are, truly, the best gifts you can give Sun! Lilalia has great advice.

There’s a 30-year difference between me and the little guy, but I honestly never thought about being an “old mama”. It is just a number, and has nothing much to do with how you connect with your child. It has to do with how well you consider your child and her needs, and how responsive you are to that - and it is also why it is a lifetime job, because that relationship can and will change over time.

Roll with those changes and just be who you are. Those are, truly, the best gifts you can give Sun!

]]> By: lilalia http://www.nolanotes.com/2008/04/29/the-gift-of-perspective/#comment-2381 lilalia Wed, 30 Apr 2008 06:13:11 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=398#comment-2381 I had my two children when I was 32 and 37. Your concerns are valid. Your enthusiasm to overcome persuasive. If I was to give you one piece of advice for later years, certainly the school years; be active and participate in activities that show your particular skills and do not try to compete with the younger moms. For example, the younger moms always tried to get me to be parent speaker in the PTA (rather thankless job), but I would decline and instead contribute in other ways that they couldn't. I am great with drills and tools so I would build the class stage for the end of the year play, instead of baking the cakes for the bake sale. You have to figure out what part of your character and interests can shine for Sun, rather than just lose yourself in the wash. <em>lilalia's last blog post..<a href='http://yumyumcafe.blogspot.com/2008/04/fickle-friends.html' rel="nofollow">Fickle Friends</a></em> I had my two children when I was 32 and 37. Your concerns are valid. Your enthusiasm to overcome persuasive. If I was to give you one piece of advice for later years, certainly the school years; be active and participate in activities that show your particular skills and do not try to compete with the younger moms. For example, the younger moms always tried to get me to be parent speaker in the PTA (rather thankless job), but I would decline and instead contribute in other ways that they couldn’t. I am great with drills and tools so I would build the class stage for the end of the year play, instead of baking the cakes for the bake sale. You have to figure out what part of your character and interests can shine for Sun, rather than just lose yourself in the wash.

lilalia’s last blog post..Fickle Friends

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