Comments on: My Etching is Rubbed

By: NMM

NMM — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 03:11:42 +0000

Beautiful post. I cried. I understand you… and you are not alone. Thanks for sharing. I have been in the same situation, and all I could think to do was display to “my sun” how to love his father. As I nurtured that relationship, as I watched “my sun” grow because of his dad’s love, I was better able to cope. I also “broke-up” with my lifelong love affair with money. Cash is such a whore….goes to anybody…and true to none. (and hardwiring CAN be changed)

Soon, I could see that “life is a series of trade-offs”…and I traded off my romantic needs for “my sunshine’s needs”. This helped bring me peace.

God bless you and yours. You sound like a wonderful human being.

By: Stacey @Real World Mom

Stacey @Real World Mom — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 12:18:42 +0000

Beautiful post. I hope that things even out for you soon.

By: MammaLoves

MammaLoves — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 03:26:53 +0000

Marriage is hard. I’m just coming out of a time when I was too close to appreciate what I have. They say it goes in phases.

Who knows…

I’m sorry I haven’t been around lately. My reader was screwed again and I hadn’t gotten a new post from you since the end of January. I can’t believe I’ve missed so much. I think it’s fixed now.

MammaLoves’s last blog post..The Lesser of Two Evils

By: Ed (zoesdad)

Ed (zoesdad) — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 17:27:11 +0000

I’m pretty sure that it’s impossible to read whatever words used to adorn my etching. It kind of gives it character though, you know? Like the slate is clean and you can interpret or read whatever text you want into it now.

Not sure what that means but that’s kind of how I feel. Peace!

Ed (zoesdad)’s last blog post..Lost in Translation

By: lilalia

lilalia — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 06:33:02 +0000

If stuck in a constant state of suppressed panic, we do tend to lash out at those standing nearby. Those who are not moving quick enough to help us out of the mire. My only advise would be to stop and be still for one moment. Then go and read Sun her favourite book, or sit outdoors under the stars and enjoy a glass of wine with CS, or just take a hot steamy bath. Things that do not cost anything. Over the last ten years, I’ve only been able to weather all the emotional and financial crises with an iota of (outward, certainly not inward) grace, by thinking of myself as a role model for my children. It is easy to show our children how to enjoy good times, but we also, realistically, have to show them how to get through bad ones as well. That means showing our children that we (they) are never along and we reach out to those slowpokes standing next to us watching us being stuck in the mire and ask them patiently to help unstuck us.

lilalia’s last blog post..Today’s Reasons For Loving Luebeck

By: Lanny

Lanny — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 04:09:41 +0000

First of all, big hugs to you.

I’m a money worrier too. No matter how well or not-so-well we’re doing, I worry. Decisions concerning money freak me out badly.

You know that commercial (J&J, I think) that says, “Having a baby changes everything?” Well, it’s true–in all aspects, marriage included.

I hope you’re able to feel at ease soon. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

Lanny’s last blog post..An Extra Bite

By: Daisy Duke

Daisy Duke — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 03:12:22 +0000

Not to get all Biblical here…but it just made me think of the book of Timothy:

“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course, I have kept the faith.”

Sounds like (another) good description to me.

Good luck. Your relationship is worth the fight.

Daisy Duke’s last blog post..Overtime

By: Tara R.

Tara R. — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 03:06:22 +0000

I’ll quote Nietzsche too: “What does not kill me, makes me stronger.”
If what you have with CS is worth a good fight, then fight for it. Good luck.

Tara R.’s last blog post..Random Wednesday

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 02:11:51 +0000

Wow. You did an amazingly good job of capturing what you wanted to say without calling him a tool, or a dillweed or all the other adjectives that jump out of my mouth when I’m feeling this way. Major props to you.

I know you know it already, but I am totally feeling your pain. If you figure it out, please let me know. Like seriously.

Katie’s last blog post..Scheduled

By: Ivy Brown

Ivy Brown — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 01:24:23 +0000

Surely I did not post at your blog today. I mean, come on now.

But seriously: We all weather these storms from time to time, some of them worse than others. What encourages me about yours is that you know the love is there and you want to work to regain that good and happy place. And that understanding, my friend, is the first step in the right direction.

In the meantime, be well, stay strong and know that you are not alone. You’ll get back to where you were in due time.

All best,
Ivy

Ivy Brown’s last blog post..A Change Will Do You Good