One in Six
Nov 11th, 2007 by Nola
We had friends over for dinner last night. We hadn’t seem them in a while, and apparently one of our friends has “found love” or is at least dating. We wish him well. Oh, the dating game. How well I remember it.
Another of our friends mentioned that he applied to e-harmony and <gasp> was rejected. After he filled out all of their questionnaires, e-harmony wrote to him and regretted to tell him that unfortunately one in six people can’t be helped by them and he was that one. As he tells it, one in six can’t be loved.
I am fortunate that I found CS before having to consider online dating, before having to consider being in my late 30s and dating. And I thank God for that, because I HATED dating even in my teens and twenties. And to have e-harmony tell me that they can’t help me, well, I agree with my pal who says of the experience, it’s a good thing he wasn’t suicidal.
Which leads me to wonder what exactly are e-harmony’s criteria in accepting (or not) someone to their social world. My friend (1) is stable, (2) lives on his own, (3) has a good job that he’s held for some time, (4) comes from a stable family, (5) has no children or pesky ex-wives, (6) doesn’t weigh 300 pounds (or even 200!), (7) drives a nice car, (8) is kind and considerate, (9) likes animals and babies (at least mine, anyway) and (10) is sociable and has nice manners. In sum, he is an all-around nice guy.
Maybe it is true that nice guys finish last. I like to think that it just means that e-harmony is a crock and dating is as much a pain in the ass as its always been.
Could e-harmony have written anything more ungracious and ridiculous? They’ve never even met your friend, how in the world do they come up with such a judgment? Secondly, they don’t *help* anyone, they are purely there just to facilitate contact between their customers.
Maybe your friend should find out whether one or two of his answers in the customers profile was worded poorly, and therefore indicated he was too creepy for e-harmony. You or your husband should try setting up a profile with more or less the same answers and see if you get the same response.
I heard e-harmony won’t accept you if you are gay. Maybe the 1 in 6 is their nice way of rejecting gay applicants. Kinda crappy if you ask me but that could be it . . . well, unless your friend isn’t gay. Well, then, I am at a loss to such craziness. That doesn’t say much for e-harmony does it? They should be able to help everyone!
Belle, if my friend is gay, that’s news to all of us, especially him!! Teeheeeee.