Comments on: Pain is Universal http://www.nolanotes.com/2007/04/19/pain-is-universal/ Sun, 23 Nov 2008 15:16:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: mybayouvieux http://www.nolanotes.com/2007/04/19/pain-is-universal/#comment-1562 mybayouvieux Mon, 10 Mar 2008 04:13:20 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=53#comment-1562 wow. wow.

]]> By: Moondance http://www.nolanotes.com/2007/04/19/pain-is-universal/#comment-79 Moondance Thu, 19 Apr 2007 15:37:35 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=53#comment-79 I had no idea. All those times I held back asking "So, aren't you guys going to have kids?" was becasue it is so rude to question other people's choices, and imply that they have not made the right one. I never imagined it wasn't by choice. I am now glad you didn't have to come up with a glib answer to such an insensitive question. It's so typical that during that time, you blamed yourself, your own body, for not being able to "give CS a child of his own," taking all the blame and fault as if it were in some way a failure. Rather than an external force no one, not him or you, could control. I'll bet he felt as bad but never showed it. I can't imagine that having all that time of thinking you could never bear a child could possibly make you love her more than you would have if you had gotten pregnant with no problem, but I am sure there will be something special that you feel when you think about it deeply. Thanks for opening the door a crack. I had no idea. All those times I held back asking “So, aren’t you guys going to have kids?” was becasue it is so rude to question other people’s choices, and imply that they have not made the right one. I never imagined it wasn’t by choice. I am now glad you didn’t have to come up with a glib answer to such an insensitive question.

It’s so typical that during that time, you blamed yourself, your own body, for not being able to “give CS a child of his own,” taking all the blame and fault as if it were in some way a failure. Rather than an external force no one, not him or you, could control. I’ll bet he felt as bad but never showed it.

I can’t imagine that having all that time of thinking you could never bear a child could possibly make you love her more than you would have if you had gotten pregnant with no problem, but I am sure there will be something special that you feel when you think about it deeply.

Thanks for opening the door a crack.

]]> By: Wendy http://www.nolanotes.com/2007/04/19/pain-is-universal/#comment-78 Wendy Thu, 19 Apr 2007 15:36:41 +0000 http://www.nolanotes.com/?p=53#comment-78 I wish you would have said something, but I understand why. I wish you would have said something, but I understand why.

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